It's not about doing things 50/50..

People always say "a relationship should be 50/50 between partners". But why?? The phrase I agree with more completely is "a relationship should be 100/100, each partner giving 100%". Which do you prefer?

Hubby and I have hit some rough patches in our 6 years together. Many times we will argue over the dumbest little things because neither of us want to give in. We each want to be the correct one. We each want to "come out ahead" in the race (aka argument). But when you sit back and look at it when you're not in the heat of an argument, you realize that it's not a race. You don't have to be the only one to come out ahead. If you're in a relationship, you BOTH need to come out ahead... TOGETHER.

Lately my hubby and I have pretty much been on the same page. We're both trying to keep the arguments on the sidelines and make the relationship a happy one. The other day he told me that he came to a realization that if he really wants to keep me in his life, he needs to treat me like a queen and make me happy so I actually WANT to be around. I mean really.. who wants a crazy hectic life, only to come home to a tense situation? No one does! He has been taking initiative a lot lately and it's really been helping me out. I need to work on saying thank you and showing him how appreciative I am of what he's doing. All relationships need a little more appreciation. We all want to feel appreciated. I urge all of you do thank your significant other for something today. At least one thing, even if it's something they always do. Let them know that you notice & that it makes you happy. Making you happy makes them happy. I PROMISE. :)

Back to the Beginning

"Be willing to be a beginner every single morning". ~ Meister Eckhart

Do you remember how you felt the day that you went on that first date with your boyfriend or girlfriend? Was it a day full of excitement and giddiness? Did you check yourself out in the mirror a thousand times to make sure that your hair, your makeup & your outfit were just right? I'll assume that day or night went well for the both of you since you're still together today. Chances are, the first few months were great. You were learning more about eachother every day and couldn't wait to see or hear from eachother again. You were simply smitten. Eventually, comfort and routine probably set in. You stopped primping yourself up to impress your lover and now that you feel secure in your relationship, you've started to put your focus on other things. Maybe you have kids now or a job that takes up a lot of time & drains you mentally and physically.

Now is the time to take a step back and evaluate your relationship. Are you happy? Do you think your lover is happy? Are you putting your lover and his or her needs at the top of your priority list? To bring back the spark in your life, you need to rearrange that list and put your spouse at position #1. Make sure you dedicate time for him or her every day to show them that you still love them and that they are your top priority. If you want this to be a lifelong relationship, you need to keep the spark going. Remember all of the things that you did in the beginning and start doing them again. Get dolled up and have date nights as often as possible. Write him or her love notes. Bring him or her flowers. Call just to say hi. Throw out the old flannel pajamas & get some new silk and lace goodies. Light some candles and slow dance.

Regular old life can creep in without you noticing it. Ditch your daily routines & have fun creating new and exciting things to help you and your lover fall in love all over again. Everyone needs a fresh start once in a while. I am no exception. This is something that I am working on myself. :)

Feel free to share with me the new things that you and your better half are doing so we can all help eachother!

"The beginning is the most important part of the work". ~ Plato

A Fresh Start

Here's to a new blog & a new and improved wife! I have recently come to a few realizations. The relationship I had with my fiance was definitely less than perfect. I liked to place all of the blame on him & was never willing to accept the fact that maybe... just MAYBE... it was me, not him. Then I read a book called "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. This book has changed my life! It opened my eyes to how men work. It made me realize that he doesn't think the same way that I do & I shouldn't expect him to! I used to fall victim of the girl power, women rule!, train of thought. But this book really opened my eyes & showed me that that way of thinking was damaging my life and most importantly, my relationship. Ever since my eyes have been opened, my relationship has been sooooooo amazing!!! I feel like I have fallen in love with my fiance all over again & I look forward to what each day will bring.

With this blog, I hope to share with you the growth I am going through as a person & as my fiance's best-friend and wife. I hope I can be an inspiration to you & your relationship.

I am soooooooo not perfect, but I have been and will always be 100% dedicated to my guy & I'll stop nothing short of trying to make him the happiest man on earth!